Ready to start healing your relationship?
Hi, I’m Alice Grutman
I’m a couples therapist who helps people navigate the messy, complicated, and deeply human parts of relationships.
The parts that don’t always get talked about- like betrayal, disconnection, resentment, or feeling alone in a relationship that’s still intact on the outside.
My Approach
I don’t believe relationships fail because people don’t care.
More often, they’re stuck in patterns they don’t fully understand- and don’t know how to get out of.
My work is grounded in:
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
The Gottman Method
Attachment science
Which means we’re not just talking about problems- we’re understanding the patterns underneath them.
Because when you can see the pattern, you can start to change it.
My Background
What It’s Like to Work With Me
Before starting my private practice, I worked with individuals, couples, and family navigating trauma and substance use.
That background shapes how I understand relationships now-
especially when trust has been broken, or when something outside of the relationship is impacting connection.
I also hold a certificate in consensual non-monogamy through the Sexual Health Alliance and provide affirming care for a range of relationship structures.
Therapy with me is active, structured, and collaborative.
I’ll help guide conversations so they don’t spiral or shut down.
We’ll slow things down, make sense of what’s happening in real time, and practice doing things differently- together.
This might look like:
Understanding your negative cycle (the one you keep getting pulled into)
Learning how to talk about hard things without making them worse
Rebuilding trust after betrayal
Navigating non-monogamy or relationship transitions
Strengthening emotional and physical connection
I’ll be direct when it’s helpful- but always with care.
What I Believe About Relationships
I don’t believe there’s one “right” way to do relationships.
Monogamy isn’t inherently better than non-monogamy.
And non-monogamy isn’t inherently more evolved.
What matters is:
Honestly
Consent
Emotional safety
And the ability to repair when things go wrong
Because every relationship runs into challenges- and what matters is how you find your way back to each other.
A bit about me outside the therapy room
Outside the therapy room, I’m someone who tends to lean toward doing hard things- but also listening to my body along the way.
Running has become on of those spaces for me, especially as I’ve been training for longer races. Yoga has been another- offering a different kind of practice in slowing down, staying present, and noticing what’s happening .
Both have taught me a lot about pacing, being with discomfort, and noticing when to push and when to ease up.
That balance is something I bring into my work with couples, too. We don’t rush past what’s hard- but we also don’t push beyond what feels overwhelming or out of reach.
Instead, we move at a pace that allows for both honesty and safety- staying with what’s hard and important, while also staying attuned to you, your partner, and what each of you needs in the moment.
Experience and Education
Bachelors of Arts in Psychology
Masters in Social Work
Licensed Clinical Social Worker (CA)
Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker (WA)
Trainings and Modalities
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT)
The Gottman Method
Consensual Non-Monogamy Certified
Open/Poly/Swinger Relationship Expert
Trauma Therapy for Couples
Affair and Betrayal Recovery
Working with Couples in a Neuro-Affirmative Way
Emotionally Focused Therapy for Relationship Loss
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)
Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy (EFIT)