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Polyamory & Consensual Non-Monogamy Therapy in California and Washington

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There is no right or wrong way to have relationships.

Maybe you’re thinking about opening up your relationship.

Or maybe you already have- and it’s not going the way you expected.

What sounded good in theory can feel a lot different in real life.

You might be navigating jealousy, miscommunication, or hurt feelings that keep coming up. Or noticing the conversations you’re having aren’t actually bringing you closer.

You may be wondering:

Are we doing this wrong?

Why does this feel harder than it “should”?

How do we do this without hurting each other?

Consensual on-monogamy isn’t inherently harder than monogamy.

But it does ask more of us- more communication, more self-awareness, and more intention.

And most people were never taught how to do that.

What to Expect in Non-Monogamy Therapy

We start with a few sessions focused on understanding you, your relationship, and what you’re hoping for.

  • The session is together (or with partners when appropriate)

  • The next sessions are individual

This helps me understand not just what’s happening- but the patterns underneath it

From there, our work might include:

  • Clarifying agreements (without turning them into something rigid or controlling)

  • Understanding jealousy, insecurity, and attachment needs

  • Strengthening communication across partners

  • Navigating transitions- like leaving to see a partner or coming back home

  • Creating more emotional safety within your relationship structure

Polyamory and non-monogamy therapy can support you in navigating open relationships with more clarity, communication, and emotional safety. My work is grounded in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and the Gottman Method, helping you build secure connection, work through jealousy and insecurity, and create relationship agreements that actually support connection- not control.

Sound like you?

This work might be a good fit if you:

Are thinking about opening your relationship and want to do it thoughtfully

Feel stuck in jealousy, comparison, or insecurity

Keep having the same conversations without resolution

Want clearer agreements- but don’t want them to feel restrictive

Are navigating changes (new partners, shifting dynamics, time-sharing)

Want support that is non-judgmental and actually understands non-monogamy

What we’ll work on

With non-monogamy therapy you can…

  • Create agreements that support connection- not control

    So there’s clarity without losing autonomy

  • Work through jealousy with more understanding (not just management)

    Sometimes that includes space for compersion- or simply neutrality

  • Communicate more clearly across relationships

    Without escalation, shutdown, or avoidance

  • Handle transitions more intentionally

    Because often that’s where the hardest moments show up

  • Explore what you actually want your relationship to look like

    Not just what you’ve been told they should look like

I am certified in Consensual Non-Monogamy through the Sexual Health Alliance and am a open/poly/swinger relationship expert. I look forward to supporting you on your journey to thriving relationships!

All relationship structures are welcome here.

You don’t have to fit a mold to have a healthy relationship.

Non-monogamy isn’t about doing more- It’s about being more intentional with how you do relationships.

And that can feel really good- and really hard- at the same time.

You don’t have to figure it out on your own.

What are the next steps?

What are the next steps?

Schedule a free 15 minute consultation appointment, where I can answer additional questions you might have and we can see if we'd be a good fit.

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