feel secure in your relationship again.

Affair and Infidelity Therapy in California and Washington

Affair recovery therapy can help couples navigate the aftermath of cheating, emotional affairs, or other forms of betrayal. Using evidence-based approaches like Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and the Gottman Method, we focus on healing betrayal trauma, rebuilding trust, and creating a clear path forward- together or apart.

Has there been a betrayal in your relationship?

Maybe you’ve recently discovered your partner has been having an affair.

Or maybe there there were signs- and you tried to trust what you were told.

Now everything feels uncertain.

You might feel numb, angry, devastated- or all of it at once.

What you thought was true about your relationship suddenly feels shaken.

You may be wondering:

Can I ever trust them again?

What does this mean about me?

Is there even a path forward?

This is what betrayal does. It doesn’t just hurt- it disrupts your sense of safety, connection, and reality.

Affair recovery therapy can help.

It may feel impossible now, but you can make sense of things again. You can find a path forward. You can feel secure in your life again. And I can help you get there.

  • Specialized therapy that focuses on repairing an affair, betrayal, or rupture in the relationship. I have specialized training that allows me to take you through this three-part process.

  • The first three sessions are assessment-focused, so I can deeply understand you, your partner, and your relationship.

    • The session is joint

    • The next two sessions are individual

    This allows me to understand both of your experiences- and the patterns between you- so our work is tailored, not generic.

    Atonement. Attunement. Attachment.

    Not just moving on- but actually repairing what was broken.

  • No.

    Infidelity is a form of betrayal trauma- and it can take many forms:

    • Sexual or emotional affairs

    • Hidden addictions or substance use

    • Financial secrecy or deception

    At it’s core, betrayal trauma happens when trust is broken in a way that threatens the safety of the relationship.

At the end of the day, I want you to know:

You can rebuild trust.

You can begin healing.

You can chart a path forward.

Even if it doesn’t feel that way right now.

Is Affair recovery right for you?

Affair counseling is a good fit for you if you…

  • Have experienced an affair or another form betrayal

  • Feel stuck in cycles of mistrust, anxiety, or disconnection

  • Notice that the pain isn’t resolving- even when you try to move forward

  • Want to understand what happened without making things worse

  • Are unsure whether to repair or separate- but want clarity first

What we’ll work on

With affair counseling, you can…

Rebuild trust- through clarity, consistency, and emotional safety

(Not just promises, but real change)


Interrupt painful communication cycles

And learn how to talk about the affair without re-traumatizing each other


Understand the “why” behind what happened- without excusing it

So you can move out of confusion and into clarity


Reconnect emotionally and physically

At a pace that actually feels safe for both of you


Decide your path forward- together or separately

From a grounded, informed place (not panic or pressure)

Your story is welcome here.

Your story is welcome here.

Your relationship is welcome here.

Affairs don’t happen in a vacuum- and healing doesn’t happen through surface-level conversations.

This work is deeper, slower, and more intentional.

And you don’t have to do it alone.